I have asked my husband Phil on many occasions to put something down on paper for Shianne’s website. The answer I kept getting was I don’t know where to start and everything I feel you have already written. Over the weekend while Phil was having some Daddy time with Shianne he sat down and wrote a little something so here it is. I have not changed anything in this piece and for those of you who know Phil, it is not easy for him to put his heart and soul in words that others can read. To Phil, I thank you for being a part of this website and hopefully there will be a few more articles to come from you.
My Little Princess.
A beautiful August day when you came my way. The stress you caused to get you to hospital in time and quickly into the world you came. A beautiful little girl is mine, Shianne Claire Durdin is your name, perfect in every way. Back to the footy I go knowing everything is fine.
Time to take you home and have you in our arms. A little ray of sunshine has come into this world said so many times before but not as bright as yours. All the checks at the doctors were always fine until one day they told me you were blind. Devastated I was and at times still am. Mum and I decided in those first few hours we would not shelter you from the world you could not see but instead treat you to the world and all it has for you. We will do everything possible to find out why and how is the best we can do and even then it isn’t enough for me.
My beautiful little girl, you give me so much joy, watching you grow every day and seeing the things you can do gives me so much inspiration and makes me think of how happy I am to have you in my life. You make me realise how bad things are NOT. Around the house you go, a little bump here and there and off you go again seemingly without a care. Your little chitter chatter is classic, a conversation I can have with you is something I adore. Your sense of smell, your touch, your ears and your taste are all enhanced because of the fact you have no sight. By gee, by gingo, by crikey you can’t even do a pop-off without you hearing and smelling it first and then letting the world know about it. You make me laugh and cry and all at different times. Yes Shianne I do cry a lot for you and at this age you don’t understand but I am a man and always am.
Your brothers give you so much love, through the rough and tumble from them you take but yes without a doubt you give them a good shake. Don’t take it from them I say and never you do. I love watching you do what you do, riding your bike around the house , playing with Scruffy (teddy-bear) or sleeping at night. I want my blankey or I want a drink, demanding you can be but that is our life and we will always be there for you.
When I talk to you on the phone from Melbourne and you ask,
why do you leave me?
breaks my heart and I tell you I’m trying to make more money for the family you seem to understand but I really do hate leaving the family every night. That moment before I go there is nothing better than your kiss and cuddle and see you when you get home. Upon my return you are at the door waiting for me to say hello my little princess. Excited you are and a small dance you do.
Dad, dad, daddy can I take my top off you say then comes the I’m nudey rudey look at me brings a smile to my face. Independence you will always have and demand to hold you in good stead reassures me you will live your life. The day will come when I have to depart but until then remember I love you with all my heart. Shianne, beneath your beautiful and you will always be My Little Princess. Love Dad.
I must say I am one proud wife, I could not have asked any more from you Phil, I love you and all that you do for your family.